My best friend writes,
I feel like we only focus on the negative experiences of others; are we just waiting for the worst to happen? When did dating change from working for the best and having faith in ourselves and others in to fearing for the worst and suspecting infidelity out of our partners?
Having been in a few dating-type relationships, I will speak for myself and say no. In the beginning of a relationship, a compatible couple is usually infatuated with one another. That is, the lovebirds are experiencing extreme happiness in the relationship, accompanied by strong sexual desire and a need to spend every waking moment with each other. Over time – and I believe this happens with a lot of people – the infatuation fades and the couple is probably left with love for one another. At this point, maybe flaws and minor annoyances are starting to show through the perfection that was once blinding. Or, maybe doubt and unwarranted suspicion kick in. (In some cases, suspicion may be warranted. In other cases, suspicion may be a projection of one’s wrongdoings onto the other. That is, she cheated so she assumes he did too.)
Are we, as humans, incapable of true romance? Of complete trust? Or is it a choice we make? Can we choose to fully trust our hearts with another without doubting them?
I believe when two people agree to begin a relationship, they are also making a promise to be honest, open, and trusting. These things are key to making great relationships last. I have experienced, first hand, what happens to a relationship when distrust is brought into the equation. Suspicion lead to questions and prying, and shortly after, an arduous breakup. This taught me that accusations to not solve problems. If you have a feeling, share it.
I think that the movement for romance needs to be put in to effect. It’s starting tonight, with me. From this moment on, my heart is completely trusted with another, and I’m not going to spend time worrying about all the things that could go wrong, but simply appreciate all the things that are right. I am going to give in to love, and not give up on it.
Heard. Nine-and-a-half times out of ten, things are going to be “right.” As long as you “do the right thing,” like my dad always told me to do, you can expect the same in return.
